How to lose hope. Why should you not lose hope even in the most hopeless situations? It won't last forever

What is hope and why does it mean so much in a person’s life? Hope is a person’s ability to believe that difficulties are temporary, and then rewards await him and all his dreams will come true. Despite all the troubles, he will definitely come best time, you just need to cope and be patient. It is this feeling that makes us endure, wait, pray, so that later what we want will come to us. This is a good, bright feeling that helps in difficult life situations not to give up, but to fight and believe that your hopes and aspirations will come true. There are people who deliberately kill hope in themselves, so that later they will not be hurt by the fact that what a person counted on and sincerely expected did not come true. Of course, this is a kind of shock absorption, an airbag. After all, when you don’t expect it, it doesn’t hurt so much that the desired event did not happen. But on the other hand, a person suppresses faith in the best, counts on the worst option, and prepares for it. Is this right? Of course yes, you say. In this cynical world, where only the material side of life is valued, one should prepare for the worst. But without faith in the best, how can it come to you if you don’t expect it, don’t imagine it, don’t desire it, don’t strive for it?

How not to lose hope

What inspires people?

Many things inspire people, some are inspired to deeds and accomplishments by love, some by recognition, some by money, some by religion. Hope is what inspires, it helps us when we give up and don’t want to wake up in the morning. The main thing is to believe and hope, think positively, strive for better life. There is already enough cynicism and low impulses of the soul around, so try to carry the fire inside throughout your life. You need to fight, defend, defend your hopes and dreams. There will be difficulties, there will be temporary troubles, there will be opponents. All this strengthens character, there are people who lose hope, and there are those who strengthen their character and strengthen their positions after dark streaks in life. Take an example from them, these can be not only real people from life, but also heroes of movies and books. Let's remember Scarlett O'Hara, isn't this a worthy example to follow in life?

Examples from life. Hope works wonders

1. “Dad, I want to go to the marathon,” the son said to his father. When the child was born, the father was advised to abandon him due to cerebral palsy, but the father insisted on the decision to take the child and raise him. The father took his son to marathons for the disabled and the Paralympics. They ran distances together, the father carrying his son in his arms or on his shoulders. Of course, they were not always the first, but from the very participation in the marathons, the son was happy, his eyes shone with joy and happiness. Later, my father began to have heart problems. What a surprise the doctors were when they diagnosed a fatal disease. If it were not for his excellent physical shape, obtained from sports competitions, he would not have survived, because for the average person this disease is certain death. It turns out that faith in his son, the hope that the child will live a full life, helped the father overcome a terrible illness.

2. The girl was beaten by her husband, he kicked her out of the house along with her child. She has no relatives in this city, nor does she have a job, because she is in maternity leave. It seems like a hopeless situation, but the girl needs to think about her daughter. Therefore, she placed her in the orphanage for a while, got a job herself, with only the hope of quickly taking her daughter into her home. She worked three jobs and visited her daughter at every opportunity. The girl lived only in the hope that everything would work out, and she would have her own corner and the opportunity to provide for herself and her child. Six months later, the girl was already firmly on her feet, and a year later she had saved up a down payment for a mortgage and for a nanny. I took my daughter and met good man. Only hope helped her not to lose heart, not to go into bad habits and get through the difficult period.

Hope gives a foretaste of joy and light at the “end of the tunnel”, hope strengthens existence, where we, like squirrels, rush in the wheel of samsara in pursuit of pain to. Hope is an ancient drug that all of humanity is specifically addicted to. When the blissful dose of hope is exhausted, withdrawal comes in the form of hopelessness and doom. Having lost hope, we hang in an eerie lack of support, as if we have fallen into an abyss from which there is no escape.

Against the backdrop of hopeless despair, when it seems that there is nothing more to lose, at some point detachment and calmness come. The wall of hopelessness cracks a little, and through the thin gap, the light of non-duality begins to break through, a hint of the cold, unconditional happiness of enlightenment. But if hopelessness was not total and all-encompassing, this cosmic crotch slams shut, hopelessness and doom dissolve, and it comes again. And every time we cling to hope, as if to a thread of salvation in the unconditional chaos of infinity. It gives us “strength”, meaning and incentives to live, act and develop.

Every day, every hour, every moment we live in hope for the best. All our lives we run behind the horizon of happiness, which moves away from us at the same speed with which we “approach” it. This running in place continues as long as we hope for something. This is our human nature - to live for a non-existent future. Hope gives us strength for such running, but it robs us of our cold truth.

A person may not notice this continuous hope for “tomorrow,” just as a fish does not notice water. Hope is the air of personality, without which it cannot exist. We live in dreams, constantly hoping that we are about to find a way out of the stuffy room of our current life situation. At some point we find this way out, and for five minutes we rejoice in “freedom.” Then hope comes again, and we suddenly find that we have entered yet another stuffy room, dominated by yet another duality of hope and doom.

All achievements, all our interests, new acquisitions, expectations, purchases, everything is dictated by the hope for the best. We believe that after the next purchase and after the next achievement, we will finally begin to live, and we will live well. This is the voice of hope, fruitless promises of happiness, which still will not come, because in hope there has always been only a hint of happiness, but there has never been and never will be happiness in hope.

Hoping for something, we once again pull the thread of hope into a tangle of despair, unraveling which, instead of the promised happiness, we find hopelessness. After this there comes a pause, an expectation that is “like death.” And this pause lasts until we grab another bundle of hope for the hundred thousandth time. Successful people in our society - these are experts in finding such balls of hope in large quantities. They are able to conduct many things at the same time - that is, simultaneously unravel many such tangles. And this makes sense. When the next tangle is recognized as a dummy, despair and hopelessness are compensated by those tangles of hope that have not yet been unraveled. They give meaning to life. This is the “middle” path of a successful person.

In its essence, hope is simply an experience that we perceive as a seed, an embryo of happiness. We quickly become attached to hope, and when it ends, we experience withdrawal. We equally project hopelessness and hope onto our lives as “real” events, forgetting that these are just experiences. This is voluntary self-deception. We begin to think and believe that our hope is some real event that will happen to us by itself. Sometimes we don’t seem to understand that the events of our lives depend not at all on hope and hopelessness, but on our “real” actions.

Hope - great way protect yourself from change. If hope for a better life has come and you have tasted its sweet taste, why do anything else? Beautiful dreams and conversations about a better life are an excellent substitute for this most beautiful and best life. You dreamed a little, daydreamed and you feel satisfied! For today, the “deed” is done. But what about real changes? Why are they? It's too difficult and dangerous, because you can screw up and feel like a failure. It is much easier to leave everything as it is and continue to hope.

And this can continue until it’s too late, until your health runs out and the walls are covered with green moss.

Sometimes, hoping for a better life, we actually don’t want to change anything. We just love to hope, we love hope, we believe in it. We like to think about change, about a new life. And doing something for these changes is completely optional.

Ultimately, no matter what improvements we plan and make in ourselves, they are all dictated by the hope for a bright future. But the bright future still won’t come. The future remains somewhere in the future, and we live in a continuous “now,” protecting ourselves from the truth with the hope of the beautiful lie of a possible future.

The truth of the present moment is extremely dangerous to all our hopes. This truth is our existential fear of death, the fear of the individual - to dissolve completely in unconditional life without supports and restrictions. And to avoid this enlightening dissolution, we cling to hope.

What are you dreaming about? What are you hoping for? What are you striving for? ? ? ? Power? Prestige? ? All this is hope, another way to escape from yourself, from life here and now...

Perhaps at this point someone has already begun to think about getting rid of hope. And this - and this is her voice! Hope dictates this strange self-deception to us. Hoping to get rid of hope for the sake of a better life is tantamount to wanting to get rid of all desires, tantamount to committing suicide in order to somehow “improve” your life. This is a pursuit from oneself, with the goal of catching up with oneself. No one really sincerely wants to kill hope. And if he thinks that he is sincere about killing hope, then most likely he does not understand what he is talking about.

What then can we hope for? There were no answers here and there never will be. We live in a world of hope. Here everything happens according to these laws. We are all steadily moving towards a way out of the duality of hope and hopelessness, simultaneously falling into all possible extremes, so that, having become fed up with them, the “exit” from these extremes ceases to be perceived as a fatal, inevitable hopelessness. But in general, here, in this life, everything is really nothing. This is the voice of hope speaking.

Sometimes, out of hopelessness, fatigue, moral devastation and loss of strength, one gives up, and it seems: that’s it, there is no more strength to fight. How to overcome this streak and why you shouldn’t lose hope? Read inspiring stories!

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“Yesterday was my graduation party. A girl with Down syndrome danced alone, and everyone laughed at her. My boyfriend pulled me away and went to dance with her. His gives me hope."

"When my brother was in kindergarten, he couldn't stop talking about how cool and funny his friend Jeremy was. When we met him, we saw that he was in a wheelchair. On the way home we asked my brother why he didn't tell us Jeremy was disabled. He just said, 'Because it doesn't matter.'"

“One day, a 17-year-old girl fell into a coma. The boy she was in love with came to her every day and told her how much he loved her. This went on for a week until she finally woke up with the words “I love you” on her lips.
We have been married for 5 years. Jason, yours gives me hope."

“I work in intensive care and yesterday at the beginning of my shift, I again noticed that elderly man who had been in the waiting room for 4 days. I asked him why he didn't go home to sleep. It turned out that he is the husband of a woman who was in the isolation ward. He replied: 'We've been married for 65 years and I can't sleep without her.'"

We hope that these stories from life real people will help you not to lose hope and start over! Believe in yourself - and everything will work out.

There is so much going on in this world. Life is given to everyone: those who believe that existence is given by God, and supporters of evolutionary theory, and other individuals. The most important thing is that each of us is here, and we are all breathing.

Death is a natural process

This has always happened. Millions of people have died and continue to die from wars and epidemics, from large-scale natural Disasters and accidents. But even if a person has the good fortune of living in a highly developed country, in an area far from crime, he is not immune from a fatal illness or a car accident. The existence of every individual can end at any moment, and only fate has power over this. This is why you should not take life for granted.

The ability to enjoy every new day

When a new morning comes, it’s so easy to open the window towards the sunlight, take a deep breath fresh air and listen to the birds singing. We cannot take this unique opportunity for granted. Accept every new day with gratitude, even if it is not without its shortcomings and disappointments. You have today, now, and this moment will never come back. So enjoy the moment and do everything you have to do. Life is not going to give gifts, because, in fact, it is our main gift.

White stripe, black stripe

If one moment of the coming day will be amazing and beautiful, then another, on the contrary, can become painful and terrible. People always experience both positive and negative things. And that's okay. But at some stage in life, it may seem that a misfortune has burst through the door without asking, occupied your home and does not allow you to breathe freely. They say about such moments: “trouble does not come alone.” In such a situation, you should not lose hope. Tears of adversity will strengthen your character and make you stronger. The laughter provided by happy moments will make your heart feel lighter. As we see, there is always balance in life. Therefore, hope should always remain with you. Let her be like a faithful companion, a beacon or light at the end of the tunnel.

It won't last forever

Both happy and sad events come and go. Sometimes they replace each other with catastrophic speed. But for some reason we tend to take positivity for granted, and are ready to react too painfully to negativity. If the situation gets out of control, there is no need to give up. The main thing to remember is that nothing in this world can last forever. There is always a way out somewhere around the corner, and sooner or later the tears will turn into loud laughter again. You just need to endure it for a while, be strong and hope for the best. As long as there is hope, you need to cling to it with both hands. And she, like a saving straw, will pull you out of the abyss.

Call on your own mind to help

Our thinking is a complex structure. People either fight their thoughts or force them to work for themselves. There is no third. In the battle against adversity, there is a real chance of victory. The main thing is to subjugate your mind, and it will act as a strong ally in battle. Even if all the doors are closed in front of you, and a cure has not yet been invented for an incurable disease, just do not lose optimism and focus on the positive. Then a miracle will happen.